Love Addiction


Our Deepest Fear
"Our deepest fear is not that 
we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that 
we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our 
darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you 
not to be.
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not 
serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us;
it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberated others."
Marianne Williamson
Three characteristics sum up the major behavioral symptoms of a Love Addict:
  1. Love addicts assign a disproportionate amount of time, attention and “value above themselves” to the person to whom they are addicted, and this focus often has an obsessive quality about it.
  2. Love Addicts have unrealistic expectations for unconditional positive regard from the other person in the relationship.
  3. Love addicts neglect to care for or value themselves while they are in the relationship.
In addition to these characteristics, Love Addicts, both female as well as male, are often in the grips of two principal fears often born out of particular childhood experiences of abandonment. The most conscious fear is that of being left and the second is a fear of healthy intimacy (which they often mistake for enmeshment). Love addicts consciously want intimacy but can’t tolerate closeness, so they must unconsciously choose a partner who cannot be intimate in a healthy way. 

If you are interested in learning more about Love Addiction and improving your relationship first and foremost with your Self - through self-compassion, self-protection, self-care - if you are interested in working with me, I invite you to call today at (650) 380-0526 to schedule an appointment, or fill out the contact form below and click Send. I look forward to hearing from you.
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